Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

Why It Can Matter More Than IQ

The groundbreaking bestseller that redefines intelligence and success

Does IQ define our destiny? Daniel Goleman argues that our view of human intelligence is far too narrow, and that our emotions play major role in thought, decision making and individual success. Self-awareness, impulse control, persistence, motivation, empathy and social deftness are all qualities that mark people who excel: whose relationships flourish, who are stars in the workplace. With new insights into the brain architecture underlying emotion and rationality, Goleman shows precisely how emotional intelligence can be nurtured and strengthened in all of us.

My key takeaways

  • it’s all about the brain and emotions
  • “e-” & “motion” comes from Latin, for “take action”
  • there are different types of (social) intelligences
  • the more emotional a moment is, the more it stays in memory
  • there is not just black and white but a lot of shades of gray when it comes to emotions
  • we have an emotional and a rational part of the mind, the emotional one is stronger and can influence our decisions
  • our thoughts are emotionally tainted
  • bad emotions have bad implications for health
  • positive thinking helps your health and self esteem to accomplish more
  • if you want to enter a group of people it is best to observe and adjust accordingly before approaching
  • the more strong emotional people influence the lesser ones
  • emotions are contagious
  • without emotions we would have no priority, preference and weighting
  • lacking emotional understanding is a key issue for a lot of other problems like aggression, doing drugs, anxiety and depression
  • understanding symptoms of psychological deficits helps to accept the fact
  • the lack of emotional intelligence is a global issue, getting worse
  • the goal is to have balanced emotions and good inter social skills
  • skills are: Recognizing and naming feelings, expressing them, evaluating intensity, managing, delaying rewards, controlling impulses, reducing stress, Self-talk, inner dialogue, processing things, questioning behavior, reading and interpreting signals, recognizing influences, taking perspectives, structured problem solving, setting goals, finding alternatives, recognizing consequences, recognizing norms, positive attitude, self-perception, realistic assessment of oneself, verbal and non-verbal, communicating with eyes, facial expressions, intonation, gestures, making clear inquiries, reacting effectively to criticism, resisting negative influences, listening to others, helping others, good friends, organizing, negotiating, connecting and analyzing

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